Cutting the Ties to Worrying

Cutting the Ties to Worrying

Photo: Lake Bohinj, Slovenia - See what the reflection in the lake shows you. It’s a metaphor for observing oneself, which is an important aspect of Phyllis Krystal Method.

In my previous blog I wrote about the last session of Phyllis Krystal Method training program in October 2010. I described a ritual that we did at the seminar. First we examined the problematic roles that we play in our lives in one meditation. In another meditation we cut the ties to the most problematic role. Those who have read my previous blog probably remember that I cut the ties to the role of a people pleaser.

May I add that we were really diligent in October. We did another cutting of the ties at the same session of Phyllis Krystal Method training program. Firstly, we examined our bad habits in one meditation. In my inner picture I was shown that I should cut the ties to my habit of worrying. Afterwards we cut the ties to one of our bad habits in another meditation. Each person always cuts the ties to the specific role or habit that is shown to him or her in his or her inner picture as the most problematic one.

The effect of a cutting does not always take place right after the cutting ritual. In some cases one has to wait for several months or even a year. The ties to my habit of worrying dispersed and vanished right away though. What a relief! I felt extremely relaxed at the seminar and even now after three weeks, I manage to stop worrying about silly things (like running out of money merely because of recession) rather quickly. That’s how I know that the cutting ritual has had an immediate effect.

Nonetheless this probably was not a miracle. My psychiatrist was successful at giving me the right medication for quieting down the bio-chemical aspect of worrying more than 10 years ago. However I believe a mental patient needs to take care of other aspects of mental illness as well. To cure my mind I did a lot of mental work next to taking medication. I have done the fear reduction exercise often over the last years (worry is the fear of future). I cut the ties to my role of a perfectionist years ago (perfectionists tend to worry about our deeds in the past that might have a bad effect on the future happenings). The last cutting – cutting the ties to my habit of worrying – was only the last effort in my struggle with out-proportionate worrying. No effort, no results. No pain, no gain. Keep fighting for a better tomorrow.

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