Share Compassion

Share Compassion

Gozd Martuljek (Slovenia, Europe), the second waterfall

In these difficult times, when we go through one personal crisis after another and sometimes life feels like a roller coaster, we find ourselves often turning to Eastern philosophy for answers. Compassion seems to be one of the keywords of many Buddhist scripts and other religious texts of the East. Not being absent from the Bible it still appears to strike out more in Eastern religious and philosophical texts. Compassion had also become a buzzword in new age literature and self help books of the West, like those written by Louise Hay, Phyllis Krystal and many others.

Yet I find myself wondering HOW exactly to practice compassion in every-day life. I noticed many times that if a couple for example is fighting over pointless every-day issues and I happen to be in a good emotional shape, my state of mind actually affects the couple. They spontaneously start talking to each other in a nicer manner. If in a bad mood on the other hand I would usually avoid a fighting couple if possible – instinctively, not based on some deep consideration. And I am not saying this is a very nice thing of me to do!

The thought that crossed my mind an hour ago and made me write this blog is:

Maybe we should just share compassion, when we have it. And hold back and try to do no damage, when we lack compassion due to our emotional stress or physical pain etc. After all compassion is catchy. People that are on the verge of having and outburst of anger due to extreme tiredness, pain, summer heat etc., might manage to remain calm, just because a total stranger shares a few kind words with them. This is how compassion can spread and get stronger. We will not get ‘paid’ emotionally for our effort right away, but maybe on one tough day, when a total stranger offers a helping hand, we will ‘get it’ in both senses of the phrase.

Last but not least let me mention some cases, when we can easily exaggerate with compassion:

–          It is no use being compassionate towards someone, who is only taking advantage of it and deliberately does no work for himself/herself.

–          It is not advisable to do things for people which they could easily do themselves, for instance making sandwiches every evening for lazy grown-up children. May I add that there is a general rule in taking care of people that have some sort of a handicap: “Never do something for them that they can still manage to do themselves. This would only increase their handicap.”

Take care of yourself and others in this funny world, that needs less haste and competition, but more team spirit and compassion,

Helena Smole

4 Responses to “ “Share Compassion”

  1. kostin mozeg says:

    In this dog eat dog world, dog being a human of course, I notice people feel compassion only for celebs and famous people.
    For instance – the same day that Amy Winehouse died, or the day after, don’t take my word for it, but in the similar time, 70! people got shot down by a crazy gunman.
    Guess what got to people more?

  2. Helena Smole says:

    Yes, I agree, we still have a lot to learn. Thank you for your comment.

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    Thank you for your encouraging words!

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