Fire and Ice

Fire and Ice

Autumn colors of fire.

Being close to someone is like sitting by a fire. It feels nice. It’s warm. The colors of life are bright, just like the colors of fire. And there is always something going on. The flames grow bigger and smaller. You know you have to poke the embers and add some more wood, when the flames die out. Just like you take care of a close relationship.

Nevertheless, the fire also represents danger. Danger of getting hurt, of developing a suffocating relationship, of losing the person you love etc. Because that same cosy fire can also leave you with burns. Some people recover from burns, others tend to hang around ice instead. They close up on theirselves and freeze their emotions involuntarily. No one can judge them, because personal tragedies are always unique and known in depth solely to the person in question.

Letting somebody come close to you after your heart has frozen is like exposing yourself to fire again. It’s not easy. The fire not only revives the joy and love in your heart, it opens old wounds too. And you have to be prepared to go through the hell of fire, before you can sit down by your camp fire and relax. No one can judge you, if you cannot master the strength to leave your safe land of ice and walk into the land of fire.

Take care,
Helena Smole, author of Balancing the Beast, a book offering a bright view of schizoaffective disorder ˗ bipolar or manic-depressive type

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