The Definition of Love


A happy couple.

I remember our math professor in high-school saying once: “I hope they never invent the formula for love. It would be the end of the world.” I got seriously scared for love at that point. Today, however, the fear is completely gone. We cannot even come up with a uniform definition of love, let alone a formula.

Thousands of love novels and love poems are telling us about love. Thousands of authors have described love as it feels to them. And still there are new novels, poems and songs every day. Love cannot be fully put in words once and for all. We cannot define it like Newton defined the basic laws of physics and be done with it. It’s not a chapter we can put in a book and refer to it, whenever the discussion touches the subject.

Love is more like water. It can change to ice or steam, it has no shape or all shapes you can imagine at the same time. It reveals new and new secrets like the depths of the ocean. It can ruin people and their belongings, but we cannot live without it. And we are made of it up to a large percentage. We think we know everything about water, but the form of a snow crystal can still surprise us. Love is a lot like water.

Take care,
Helena Smole, author of Balancing the Beast, a book offering a bright view of schizoaffective disorder ˗ bipolar or manic-depressive type

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