The Trap of Success

success Success is such a sacred word in our Western world that it is rarely questioned. As long as you can measure something and compare it with others it is a potential success. Consequently, the Westerners have neglected things that cannot be measured: love, trust, health, honesty.

A man is successful, if he makes a lot of money. If, on the other hand, his colleague at work makes less money but is a lot nicer to his wife, this other colleague is not successful. Kindness is not only hard to measure, it is also a private thing. And in order to show success one has to concentrate on public things like money and other possessions.

Similarly, one cannot measure and show off one’s honesty. Thus it has become more important to show off with the so called perfect body.

Consequently, the Western world has neglected everything that makes us happy: love, trust, health, honesty. We have given all these up, just because they cannot be measured.

As far as I can see there is another problem with success: one can come to the stage, when one never gets enough of it. It becomes and addiction. The basis for this addiction is the fact that success does not really make one happy. Therefore one strives for more success. It is usually when one loses one’s health that one realizes what is really important in life. Success happens along the way, it should not be the goal. To have a job that you like and making ends meet is enough. It also leaves enough time and energy for health, family and friends.

Take care,
Helena Smole, author of Balancing the Beast, a book offering a bright view of schizoaffective disorder ˗ bipolar or manic-depressive type

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