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We can turn lichen into gold.

I have been observing for some time now, how people with integrity acquire important positions in society and they soon give up, because they get too heavily criticized. The ones with less integrity usually do not care much about criticism and keep their leading positions.

What can we do about it? At the first glance, nothing. Especially, if we do not work with people in leading positions. But what if there is a thing we can do anyway? I believe, each human being can add a little bit to the mosaic called a better future.

We can start with our family, friends, neighbors, colleagues at work, acquaintances. If somebody explains that she/he finished a project, it makes a big difference, whether we say:

»Oh, so now, you can rest a bit.«

Or if we compliment the person:

»Congratulations. It was a tough project, but you made it.«

The more we know about this project, the more specific compliments we can give. To be able to do that, we must listen first. Sometimes, we have to encourage the person to tell us more:
»What kind of a project was it? How many people were involved? Were you the manager?«

Lately, I have caught quite often on the radio, how somebody robbed a large sum of taxpayers’ money. And it has made me sad. I usually turn off the radio then. I choose not to be sad. First the person robbed me and now she/he will make me sad. I say NO to that and choose to help build a mosaic for the future. The more we compliment each other, the more we build an emotional atmosphere, where really competent people with integrity will get and keep the leading positions.

I would really like to hear your thoughts on this matter!

Take care,
Helena Smole, author of Balancing the Beast, a book offering a bright view of schizoaffective disorder ˗ bipolar or manic-depressive type

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