My Mistake – My Lesson

relationships I have been wondering lately, why it is so hard to admit a mistake. Yes, of course, we have to face the consequences, like losing a friend or a job. By denying a mistake we hope to avoid it. And even if it is a tiny mistake without any serious ramifications, it is painful to admit we did something wrong. The feeling of guilt burns in our chest while taking on the responsibility. We all know all that, but let’s dig deeper.

At the root of reoccurring mistakes is a conviction. For example, when we keep picking friends, who treat us badly, the underlying conviction might be: “I don’t deserve noble friends. I’m not worthy of it.”

Or perhaps, when we never thoroughly prepare for an exam and always leave it to chance, the conviction behind our repeated behavior might be: “Exams are games of luck. There is no point in studying hard.”

The only way to break the vicious circle is to define the conviction and try to get rid of it. We can use the power of affirmations (compare books by Louise Hay) or perhaps cut the ties to each individual conviction using the Phyllis Krystal method. Cognitive behavioral therapy is also based on writing down the convictions and changing our thinking patterns.

In the end, we will find that it was the mistake that eventually led us to self-analysis and set us free from the vicious circle of repeating the same unproductive behavior.

Still, making mistakes and trying to correct them is a strenuous endeavour. But for those, who wish to become better persons, life is not always easy.

Take care,

Helena Smole, author of:
– a fantasy novel with romance Out of the Forest and into the City
Balancing the Beast, a book offering a bright view of schizoaffective disorder ˗ bipolar or manic-depressive type

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