True Love

true or false love

In the center of this picture you can see the highest peak in Slovenia, EU: Triglav.

What is true love? There have been many attempts at defining it. Is it a really passionate love? Is it love that lasts a lifetime? Or is it the compassionate love?

In my opinion we cannot define TRUE love once and for all, for there is no FALSE love.

Is there a thing like false love? I do not think so. Love simply IS or IS NOT. Yes, there can be more or less love or in other words it can be more or less passionate.

The classic example are ‘friends’ that do not know you anymore, when you fall ill or go bankrupt for example. They can be called false friends. But their love is not false I believe. They simply do not love you. They were just using you and now you have figured them out.

Waiting for the one true love is one of the causes why so many couples break up these days I reckon. Instead of putting more effort into a relationship you simply say that she or he is NOT the one true love.

Merely the notion that there is one perfect match for everyone is in my opinion an illusion. Firstly, there is no perfect match. There are only better or worse matches. Secondly, if your heart is open, you can feel passionate love more than once in life. Thirdly, passionate love is messy and not the ideal way to start a relationship. Compare my blogs: Being in Love Is Like a Scholarship and You Don’t Necessarily Need a Scholarship.

Let me conclude with a quote from the American movie Forces of Nature (Bronwen Hughes, 1999): “In the end, all you can do is commit to the people you love and hope for little luck ….”

Take care,
Helena Smole, author of Balancing the Beast, a book offering a bright view of schizoaffective disorder ˗ bipolar or manic-depressive type

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