The Mystery of Three Kids

I have a pretty harsh inner critic in me, a voice telling me I am not good enough. I read that this comes from my childhood, from too conditional love from my parents. In the sense: “We will love you, if you are good.” Now I am asking myself: How else are parents supposed to raise a child? A human being cannot do anything one pleases, because there are other people on the planet and there have to be some rules. In order to teach the child the rules, one has to motivate her or him. You promise the child to be treated nicely, if the child is good. It dawned on me in this respect that if you have...
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The Jewel of Boredom

I am sure nobody will read this blog post. Boredom being a jewel? Come on, nobody will ever get past the title. It is so against our modern life-style. Thus I can write in peace, for myself, it really takes the pressure off. Even the very writing of this blog post will be boring – definitely something to look forward to. I need boredom in my life right now. I was wondering what people were doing in the evenings and on Sundays in days before TV, before newspapers, internet, smart phones and the Bible being the only book in the house. Surely they could gossip, read the Bible or tell each other fairy...
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A Clash Between Two Worlds

  I have been reading two very different books the last couple of weeks: a biography of a millionaire-philanthropist and a collection of poems. What a chasm between the two worlds! On one hand the cruel world of business, of the race for profits, of exploiting the workers, of survival of the fittest. I knew from the start that this particular millionaire gave away his fortune after retirement in the form of pensions for his workers and for college professors, in the form of donating libraries and music halls etc. His philanthropy was mentioned at the beginning of the book. Yet, I kept thinking:...
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You cannot prevent destiny or the funny incident with the soap.

Any reasonable person knows, one cannot prevent destiny. Being a person with anxiety, however, I must remind myself daily that I can only do so much to prevent trouble. I am often swimming in worst case scenarios. I get sick and tired of trying to convince myself they will not happen. And when I chase them away, new appear. I am battling with a few of them right now. Yet, I do not want to share them, for I am afraid they could trigger anxiety in my readers. Except the funny incident with the soap. I can share that much, I believe. I am too aware of viruses and bacteria, so I wash my hands too often. I...
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You do not have to own nature to enjoy it.

People sometimes ask me, if my husband and I would like to live in a house with a garden. Pictures of sitting on a comfortable chair in the shade of an old oak tree, of gently caressing vermillion roses blossoming under my care, of leaves turning brown, red and yellow pop up in my mind. Yes, I tell them, living in a house is wonderful, but so far I have not found anything really wrong with living in a small apartment. The basic difference is that we do not own the nature we enjoy in. I look out the window and I see naked branches in winter, occasionally covered in snow or ice. I behold and absorb the...
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