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Learning from the Masters

I would like to share with you, how I have recently attempted to learn from the masters. I picked one of my favorite novels: Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen. While reading Benjamin Franklin’s biography by Walter Isaacson I learned that one of the Founding Fathers of the United States used to try to remember magazine articles he liked, and attempted to reproduce them a few days later without looking at the originals. He used a special kind of notes to help the recalling. This was his way of learning to become an accomplished writer. Inspired by Benjamin Franklin I developed my own method. I read...
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You are welcome to read an author spotlight guest post about Vivvy and Izzy, which is finally available in paperback form. Thank you Colleen Chesebro for the opportunity of a guest blog. Take care, Helena Smole
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Fears Seen as Wishes

To see fears as wishes is a crazy idea I got the other day, but I am going to go through with it anyway. Why? Because, in my opinion, any reflection which offers distance from fears can be helpful. Fears as wishes then. How can a fear be a wish? In essence, I could decipher two kinds of wishes camouflaged as fears: – the wish that something does not happen (being the fear of it happening); – the wish that things do not change (being the fear of change). Let me give you an example. I am in the process of publishing my second paperback: Vivvy and Izzy the Dwarf: A series about relationships...
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Marital Bliss in a Nutshell

The title sounds too ambitious perhaps, but I only want to share with you the suggestions for a happy marriage I have come across in my life. Some are from seminars, some I deducted prom real-life situations in my marriage or in those of my relatives and friends. These are just ideas, there is no recipe for marital bliss. They might work for some couples and for others not. In my opinion the woman in a love relationship has more emotional intelligence than the man, because raising daughters is different from raising sons. The daughters are allowed to be more emotional and eventually learn to deal with...
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Judging People by Their Profession

Medical doctors are probably the number one of highly esteemed professionals or close to that in most people’s minds. That is, in my opinion, one of the reasons why it is so hard to accept their mistakes. We think they are god-like creatures and gods do not make mistakes. In reality they are only human and bound to make bad decisions at least at some points in their lives. They can for example have an illness themselves and this causes their concentration to lower. Or it can even happen on a good day and turns out to be a simple blunder. Another example of bias regarding people’s profession is...
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