The Curse of One Rule

Life offers many complex situations. Therefore we cannot have one simple rule for every situation. Sometimes we choose between two or more rules, sometimes we make a combination of rules, and then again we might also make an exception to a certain rule. Just like secret police often lies to protect their country. Saving lives is more important in this case than adhering to the rule: ‘Thou shalt not lie.’ The only people who always adhere to one rule are, in my opinion, fanatics. The key ingredient of a fanatic is, I believe, not thinking, always deciding the same way. This may make our live...
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Summer Holidays’ Musings

Like most holidays in the heat season my husband and I made what is slowly becoming a traditional compromise: we spent 5 days in the mountains and 5 days at the seaside, both in our home country. You have probably guessed: he likes the mountains, while I prefer the sea. Although I must say, over the years of our marital journey, I have grown close to the mountains and he started to like the sea. It is funny how one’s likes are not so set in stone, once one is willing to step out of the box of one’s standard views. It took a lot of adjusting though. I can ascend up to 900 meters (3000 feet) of...
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Fire and Ice

How can it be that the people we love most drive us most crazy at times? Dr. Harville Hendrix claims that our life partner usually has at least one personality trait that has bothered us or still bothers us in one of our parents as well (Getting the Love You Want, 1988). But why are we annoyed by exactly this trait? Phyllis Krystal always taught us in her seminars, that we picked our parents ourselves before incarnation, because we wanted to learn something specific. The lesson goes on with the life partner, as it would appear from the teachings of the both above mentioned authors. Whatever the...
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