Ah, Mistakes!

While some degree of the fear of mistakes is useful and healthy, too much of it can prevent our actions. We might never change things for the better. Or we might never meet new friends for instance. It is true that we can avoid pain by not taking any action and thus omitting mistakes. Yet, the moment we see pain as experience, it might decrease the ‘wrongness’ of a mistake. Of course causing a car accident for instance will always feel wrong. But what about changing a job for example? You earn less at the new job and the change might feel as a mistake. Is it really? Is money everything?...
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Life is like a math task

Some time ago I got this idea that life as such could be compared to a math task. We all get an individual task to solve of course. The starting data differs from person to person. One either has had a happy, a mediocre or a difficult childhood. They say everyone is born with a talent, but we have different ones from having a leader personality to the delicate capabilities of an accomplished bobbin lace weaver. Some people end up being single, while the others struggle with the complications and joys of a partnership. Each and every person on Earth gets a unique task and has to sail through sunshine...
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Chaos versus Order

While walking in the forest I got this idea that the true nature of things is chaos. Things keep changing. And the nature of human beings is to fight the chaos and bring order. Unless we do some tying up, garbage and dust keep piling up in our apartments. Unless we take care of our health it deteriorates over years. Our brain is built in such a way that it produces negative thoughts without any effort. It takes a lot of effort to produce optimistic and common sense thoughts though. The thinking patterns of fear and anger are particularly strong these days. It takes a lot of mental work to stay afloat....
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Destiny Reefs

In the last decade the idea that if we really wish for something, visualize and try hard to achieve it, it will eventually come true. Many books were sold, promising that we can achieve anything. I must disapprove however. In my opinion there are hurdles on some paths that are impassable. After trying to achieve something for years and seeing things get worse not better, we must accept our destiny. Not everything is meant to be. I remember how I was trying to learn to drive a car for four years. I had my license and the knowledge in my head, but I could not put it into practice. My reflexes were too...
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Too Much Pressure on the Parents

Psychologist find that there are two kinds of parents: – Those, who do not care much about how they will raise a child. – Those, who care about it and either do their best by using common sense or visit seminars and read books about upbringing. I would like to say something to the second group. Let me offer some comfort I rarely see written anywhere: – It is impossible to raise a child without any ‘mini traumas’. Let me name a few examples. For instance, somebody likes many pictures and other adornments on walls, because he/she totally disliked empty white walls in his childhood....
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