Fears Seen as Wishes

To see fears as wishes is a crazy idea I got the other day, but I am going to go through with it anyway. Why? Because, in my opinion, any reflection which offers distance from fears can be helpful. Fears as wishes then. How can a fear be a wish? In essence, I could decipher two kinds of wishes camouflaged as fears: – the wish that something does not happen (being the fear of it happening); – the wish that things do not change (being the fear of change). Let me give you an example. I am in the process of publishing my second paperback: Vivvy and Izzy the Dwarf: A series about relationships...
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Marital Bliss in a Nutshell

The title sounds too ambitious perhaps, but I only want to share with you the suggestions for a happy marriage I have come across in my life. Some are from seminars, some I deducted prom real-life situations in my marriage or in those of my relatives and friends. These are just ideas, there is no recipe for marital bliss. They might work for some couples and for others not. In my opinion the woman in a love relationship has more emotional intelligence than the man, because raising daughters is different from raising sons. The daughters are allowed to be more emotional and eventually learn to deal with...
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A Prayer for the World

I send out a prayer for the world, A lot of Love in my humble word. A prayer for those in power To save many a flower, To preserve the birds and the bees, And plant a myriad of trees. A prayer for food, school and medical care, Which among everyone we should share. A prayer for understanding and compassion, Which should replace the conflict passion. A prayer for a plastic bag to stay out of the sea, For a healthy apple to grow on a cared-for tree. A prayer for a tear on a child’s cheek to dry, For the mother to always have food to fry. A prayer for the father to be of great help, For him to hear the...
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Fire and Ice

How can it be that the people we love most drive us most crazy at times? Dr. Harville Hendrix claims that our life partner usually has at least one personality trait that has bothered us or still bothers us in one of our parents as well (Getting the Love You Want, 1988). But why are we annoyed by exactly this trait? Phyllis Krystal always taught us in her seminars, that we picked our parents ourselves before incarnation, because we wanted to learn something specific. The lesson goes on with the life partner, as it would appear from the teachings of the both above mentioned authors. Whatever the...
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Love Is …

Love is an unexpected morning greeting. It’s birds on the same branch meeting. Love is a soft melody sung in a pair. Love is being strict but fair. Love is a perfumed letter with a passionate message. Love is seeking to one’s heart a secret passage. Love is finding a way through a rough patch. Love is tolerating socks that don’t match. Love is a patient yearning. It’s also a desire like a furnace burning. Love is breaking up and making up. It’s also self-defense and standing up. Love is the heart’s higher learning. Love is making the armistice and not the fight...
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