Marital Bliss in a Nutshell

The title sounds too ambitious perhaps, but I only want to share with you the suggestions for a happy marriage I have come across in my life. Some are from seminars, some I deducted prom real-life situations in my marriage or in those of my relatives and friends. These are just ideas, there is no recipe for marital bliss. They might work for some couples and for others not. In my opinion the woman in a love relationship has more emotional intelligence than the man, because raising daughters is different from raising sons. The daughters are allowed to be more emotional and eventually learn to deal with...
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No More Bad News Please

I am not like many people who forget or do not care in the first place. I care and I remember. There is a huge array of horror stories which accumulated in my brain years ago, when I was still watching the news, reading newspapers, watching tragedy movies and reading all sorts of novels. Nowadays I only watch comedies and do not follow the news on TV or in newspapers. I also put down a book, if it frightens or saddens me too much. The stories from the past are still haunting me. I cannot believe the details I remember from all the stories of child abuse, mafia, incest, sexual slavery, war camps,...
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A Prayer for the World

I send out a prayer for the world, A lot of Love in my humble word. A prayer for those in power To save many a flower, To preserve the birds and the bees, And plant a myriad of trees. A prayer for food, school and medical care, Which among everyone we should share. A prayer for understanding and compassion, Which should replace the conflict passion. A prayer for a plastic bag to stay out of the sea, For a healthy apple to grow on a cared-for tree. A prayer for a tear on a child’s cheek to dry, For the mother to always have food to fry. A prayer for the father to be of great help, For him to hear the...
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Eros Agape Philia

Recently I got a gift in a clothing shop: three white soaps in the form of a heart, nicely packed in a red cardboard box with three words in white color printed on it: Eros Agape Philia. I remembered the Greeks and a quick look into Wikipedia affirmed my assumption that those three words are defining different variations of love. See: Greek words for love. Eros means “love, mostly of the sexual passion”. Agape in Greek philosophy is “love: esp. charity; the love of God for man and of man for God”. Philia would be “affectionate regard, friendship”. There is also a fourth kind of love:...
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Fire and Ice

How can it be that the people we love most drive us most crazy at times? Dr. Harville Hendrix claims that our life partner usually has at least one personality trait that has bothered us or still bothers us in one of our parents as well (Getting the Love You Want, 1988). But why are we annoyed by exactly this trait? Phyllis Krystal always taught us in her seminars, that we picked our parents ourselves before incarnation, because we wanted to learn something specific. The lesson goes on with the life partner, as it would appear from the teachings of the both above mentioned authors. Whatever the...
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