The glamour and misery of negativity

Negativity. Why negativity? Because it hits the news? Give me a break! I stopped watching the news, I stopped reading newspapers. And? It still isn’t enough. The negativity seems to be almost the very core of our being. The core of a western civilization soul at least. Avoiding the news was not enough, so I moved on. I also avoid negative people without any sense of guilt. All relatives included. It doesn’t mean I will not help my parents, but I don’t need to listen to all negative things they are saying: complaints, pessimism, resentment. It’s a tough fight for the simple...
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When the going gets tough … it’s time for positive affirmations

Mine go like this: 1. Moja odgovornost je način, KAKO bom določeno mejo postavila. Odziv drugega je njegova odgovornost. 2. Znam se postaviti zase. 3. Lahko izbiram, komu bom pomagala. Don’t despair. The translation is already there. See below: 1. It is my responsibility HOW to draw a line in a relationship. The reaction of the other person involved is his/her responsibility. 2. I am capable of standing up for my rights. 3. I choose whom I will help. The upper Slovene version of my affirmations is written on a piece of paper. The paper has been hanging on my bathroom wall next to the mirror for...
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Drawing the line in a relationship

I have promised to write about the Phyllis Krystal method seminar I attended in Munich and now it’s time to do it. When one first comes across the Phyllis Krystal method and hears that we need to cut the ties to our parents, there is often the fear and the sense of guilt in the form of the sentence: “But I love my parents. I cannot do this. I cannot cut the ties to my parents.” A simple answer to this dilemma would be: “You want to cut the ties to your parents precisely because you love them.” Cutting the ties means growing up. And by growing up I mean forgiving our parents and taking...
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