Negativity. Why negativity? Because it hits the news? Give me a break! I stopped watching the news, I stopped reading newspapers. And? It still isn’t enough. The negativity seems to be almost the very core of our being. The core of a western civilization soul at least. Avoiding the news was not enough, so I moved on. I also avoid negative people without any sense of guilt. All relatives included. It doesn’t mean I will not help my parents, but I don’t need to listen to all negative things they are saying: complaints, pessimism, resentment. It’s a tough fight for the simple...

Mine go like this: 1. Moja odgovornost je način, KAKO bom določeno mejo postavila. Odziv drugega je njegova odgovornost. 2. Znam se postaviti zase. 3. Lahko izbiram, komu bom pomagala. Don’t despair. The translation is already there. See below: 1. It is my responsibility HOW to draw a line in a relationship. The reaction of the other person involved is his/her responsibility. 2. I am capable of standing up for my rights. 3. I choose whom I will help. The upper Slovene version of my affirmations is written on a piece of paper. The paper has been hanging on my bathroom wall next to the mirror for...

I have promised to write about the Phyllis Krystal method seminar I attended in Munich and now it’s time to do it. When one first comes across the Phyllis Krystal method and hears that we need to cut the ties to our parents, there is often the fear and the sense of guilt in the form of the sentence: “But I love my parents. I cannot do this. I cannot cut the ties to my parents.” A simple answer to this dilemma would be: “You want to cut the ties to your parents precisely because you love them.” Cutting the ties means growing up. And by growing up I mean forgiving our parents and taking...

Last night I went to bed at 9 pm. I fell asleep in an instant. It seemed like a good night. Then all of a sudden I woke up from an unpleasant dream. I felt a burning sensation in my stomach. I got up. It was 2 am. And I didn’t panic. What a change! If this had happened a month or so ago, I would have gotten worried. I had only slept for 5 hours. I prepared myself something warm to eat and went back to bed. Still I didn’t fall back asleep. Nevertheless I didn’t panic. I rested in bed with my eyes closed. Then at 5 am I started coughing. I was fed up with lying in bed. Therefore I...

I am back from the very intensive seminar in Munich. Our teacher Phyllis Krystal will be 96 in April and she is still able to work full time for four days in a row. She is more than amazing. She is a miracle. The next training is in October. First I was asking myself: “Why do we need half a year from one training to another?” Today I know the answer. It’s because we need a very long break. And it’s also because she gave us a lot of homework. Till October we are supposed to practice and write a report about it. For me this will be nothing new really, for I have been working with her method...