Do you often find yourself between two fires? How does the role of the peacemaker fit you? Are your successful at it? Our friend Mary, the main female character from a fantasy novel with romance ‘Out of the Forest and into the City’ was not able to alleviate the following bickering between her boyfriend’s mother Gertrude and her daughter-in-law Alice: ‘Gertrude really started shouting this time. She hoped she could chase the little devil from the staircase with her deep voice, but Alice wouldn’t give in: “Old women like you belong in a home. Instead we are putting up with you...

Does it ever happen to you that you get yelled at and you know you are not the right reason for yelling? Does it feel like stepping on land mine? It could be called transferred anger. The person is actually not angry at you. The anger to the right person could not be expressed for various reasons. Perhaps the person is already dead, or it is the boss, who is too tricky to be yelled at. Or it even might be a very sensitive person, who starts crying easily, that is why it is better not to yell at him/her. The bottled-up anger gets carried around and when there is a suitable victim to release the anger...