Posted by Helena Smole in Relationships
on Apr 15th, 2013
Have you felt it too? It is strong, isn’t it? And repeatedly we are being told by wise men and women that we should change ourselves not the people around us.
I believe in that too. Only sometimes I think it can be overrated in the sense that I confuse it with something else: setting some limitations in order to protect myself (self-defense).
Let me give you an example. I used to be exposed to two negative people that I had to visit often. Or at least I thought I had to visit them often, because they told me so and made me feel guilty, if I skipped regular dates. They were negative in the sense...
Posted by Helena Smole in Relationships
on Apr 2nd, 2013
A friend of mine once said that there are two ways in life: either you work for people or you work against them. The way government money is entering private pockets these days I think I finally understand, why some people feel the urge to gather more and more money. Stolen money is giving them a sense of safety. But not for long. Soon they have to steal some more. Why? Because the feeling of safety is false. They will never feel safe, no matter how much money they acquire with fraud and extortion. Hence they have to get more of it. Over and over again. It is a vicious circle.
On the other hand people...
Posted by Helena Smole in Schizoaffective disorder
on Mar 18th, 2013
This topic is so subtle and fragile that I do not dare to write any general assumptions. Let me just tell you my story.
I had a well-paid job for 9 years. But not a single day would go by was I not writing my resignation in my mind. The problem there were very tense human relationships at the office that I found very hard to keep myself out of.
Thus I tried several times to find another job so that I could finally quit. The first job, that I almost took, but got distracted from it through a chain of coincidence, turned out to be awful. It is funny that – years later – I met a girl that had used to...
Posted by Helena Smole in Schizoaffective disorder
on Mar 12th, 2013
See my new video, where I tell my story and present the book: Balancing the Beast:
A Bright View of Schizoaffective Disorder – Bipolar or Manic-Depressive Type.
Posted by Helena Smole in Schizoaffective disorder
on Mar 4th, 2013
Having been faced with a mental illness, there is always the danger of going to extremes. Either one closes up on himself/herself, becomes convinced that nobody understands him/her and strives to resolve the problem on his/her own, which is usually too difficult. Or one expects of his/her doctors, relatives and friends to do everything, even his/her part, which would be the other extreme.
Imagine Atlas, the super-strong guy from Greek mythology, who held up the celestial sphere. Sweating in the sun, running out of strength due to a heavy burden. And at the same time three of his colleagues lying in a...