Day and night, shadow and sunlight, winter and summer … life is full of opposites and we are adjusting to them on and on. In summer we wish it were a little cooler, so we could do more work. In winter we wish days were longer and sunnier, so we would have more energy. All those wishes are expression of control we would like to have over natural phenomena. In reality, a wise thing to do is to adapt and expect less, when it is too hot or when the lack of sunlight is making our brain sluggish. One thing we can do is not make any big plans for winter, if we know that our brain responds with...

My husband surprised me with a question the other day: »Why are spring and autumn most problematic regarding your bipolar disorder? Does it have anything to do with star constellations and the movements of the planets and the moon?« I answered: »Maybe. I do not know much about astronomy. But I do know about chaos in my brain caused by seasonal change. …« When I was finished giving him an answer, he suggested I wrote a blog about it. I argued that there were numerous psychiatrists who have given more plausible and scientifically proven answers available on the internet. My explanation was too...

I had a good plan at the beginning of December about Christmas cards for my relatives. I wanted to draw them myself. I managed to come up with a sketch of a skiing dwarf and I thought I would draw variations of that dwarf with color pencils. That was the original plan. It turned out quite differently. I used to prepare paper and color pencils several times a week, but week after week they just lied there on the table. I never started to draw. I felt horrible about it for almost a month, until it got too late to make Christmas cards myself anyway and I bought some instead. It was only in January this...

The key to a peaceful life is taking control of your wishes. One extreme is trying to make all your wishes true. That way you are unfocused, constantly drawn away from important things and in danger of losing what really matters in life, like health or family bliss for example. The other extreme is trying to achieve nirvana or the state without wishes. Nirvana is the minute before dying in your last incarnation, so take it easy – you can have some wishes, just make sure you don’t overdo it. Some things are not meant to be, thus you should let go of some wishes. Another common mistake is having...

There is no recipe, how to grow old with someone and still hold hands in a park at the age of 80. Each couple has to find their own way through life. However, I would like to point out some general guidelines that I personally find useful: Never compete with your partner, but cooperate with one another. Do not let other people tell you, when you should have kids. Find an answer in your heart. Plan. You are not too old at the age of 40. Not too old to become a mother and not too old to start a career. You are not too old to start a career at 50 or 60 or even 70, except for some professions like pilots...